I remember listening to Scot McKay and he mentioned that if you have your own car and your own place by 21 your ahead of most guys so I went ahead and made it a goal before 21 I’d have both. And I also remember hearing a lot of men mistaking having a car and a crib for value although it does make life a bit easier it does not raise the value in women’s eyes of you specifically it’s just you have valuable toys things rentable value. There’s also plenty of instances around you to make you believe that hey well if I get this then my problem would be solved.

I remember when one of the girls I liked after I had a game would end up riding with some other dude and his mom and I walked home the other way. I offered to walk her instead nice Guy antics but she politely declined because it’s night and it’s cold. Who’d wanna walk opposed to getting a quick warm nice ride? It makes sense to me now but back then it still hurt. Like damn she must like that guy more and not like me enough to not ride with him. They’d come together too. I was actually dating this girl I won’t beat around the bush. But regardless listening to scot I was inspired to set the goal and I did I got my car at 21 and could’ve had my crib by January 1st this year but I then I realized a few things.

As I reached closer to the goal by being the type of person who deserves it, I realized I don’t need the car or the crib and frankly I was unhappy because it wasn’t because a nice car or house would make me happy, I was just thinking this is what successful people have and specifically to be called a real man successfully you need your own place own car not depend on anybody and I realized this come January so instead of rush it I decided to start doing and setting goals and making everything in what would make me happy because success is a byproduct of my own happiness.

Only you can define success for yourself because only you know what you truly want. So, just a few weeks after my birthday nonetheless I still accomplished my goal and it goes to show that if you write down your goal and focus em no matter what if you focus on it and persist and your punching the right buttons it’ll come to pass. I am happy I can say I’m ahead of the game. If you wanna learn to do the same and break out of your nice guy habits and nice guy lifestyle and get the things you truly want in life overcome your fears and live with more passion, either shoot me an email or private message on FB and let’s chat.