The stupidity of copying others. I know there’s a Time as a nice guy where you seem to be looking at other guys and comparing yourself because you don’t think your good enough and aren’t man enough to go ahead and ask for you want or maybe your just not getting what you want and there’s this other guy, maybe an “alpha male” who seems to be getting the attention from women you crave maybe from your girl or a girl your tunnel vision focused on. You may be thinking hey maybe if I act more like him I can get the things that I want in life too. That thinking is wrong. There is no way or let me say it’s highly unlikely that by imitating somebody that has what you want whether it be attention form women, a big bank account, confidence, a girlfriend unless you know exactly what the thing your copying or imitating is the thing that directly correlated to getting what you wanted in the first place and even then it’s still unlikely because they may have a different past or certain attributes that make it work that you may not see.

For example, you can get in hot water by just thinking you can get the same thing by imitating other dudes or alpha males for instance. Let’s say Jerry (bad name doesn’t matter) goes around and when he talks to the women you happen you have a crush on he always puts his arm on her shoulder to greet her from behind and she turns around with a ridiculous amount of feminine energy and hugs him. You think oh if I just touch women confidently she’ll respond that way. You try it and she gives you the weirded out look. Now, what happened here? That’s his sisters best friend or they’ve known each before they started working here or they hang out outside of work. It can literally be anything but the point is you’ll never know and what’s crazier is they might not even know.

From the point of view using the scientific method, you cannot know what works to get a specific desired result unless you test one variable at a time. For example, they’re a stain you use cleaning product one it doesn’t come out then you attempt cleaning product 1 2 and 3 it does. How in the hell are you supposed to know which product did the job or maybe it was a combination unless you test one variable at a time? Now I’m sure this guy hasn’t been seeing what he’s doing whether it be the cologne his girl gave him for his bday the new shoes he bought or just the fact he’s working out more so he’s more comfortable with people. And if this what’s even crazier if even if you asked this guy and he says it’s one thing there’s no actual possible way to know that for sure … unless you test it for your damn self.

So if you’re going to copy someone don’t just blindly follow what they say as fact, test it one variable at a time and get closer and closer to where you want to be. And if your a nice guy who wants to accelerate that process and overcome your fear and live with more passion send me a direct message through FB or email me and let’s have a chat or schedule a free strategy session.